Adaleah Rose Field's Obituary
Adaleah Rose Field, born January 29, 2014, in Tulsa, Oklahoma. She joined our Lord January 30, 2014. Adaleah is survived by her loving parents Bruce and Anita and her loving sister Ashlynn, Maternal grandparents Rey and Mary Arce, and Paternal grandparents Steve and Dovie Field, Great Grandmothers Betty Cartwright and Jimmye Field, and Great Grandfather Willie Field. Below is Bruce’s reflection upon the events that took place after receiving Annie’s (Anita) phone call that it was time to go to the hospital. Wednesday January 29, 2014 at 3:18 p.m. our daughter Adaleah was born! She weighed 3 lbs 7 ounces and was 14 inches long. Adaleah was born 10 weeks early. Annie’s water broke for some unknown reason and put her into labor on Monday January 27, 2014. As I hurried to her work to pick her up, I was both scared and excited. I was a nervous wreck the whole time, and I could tell Annie was too. As we arrived at the hospital, Annie was put into bed and remained under constant supervision. We had doctors and nurses around making her comfortable the whole time. Over the next 24 hours, as we kept learning new things about Adaleah’s situation, we came to realize that even though we had no cause of why Annie’s water broke, we did learn of a new development with Adaleah that wasn’t detected before; our baby girl had what is known as hydrops fetalis and had fluid built up around her heart, lungs, and abdomen. We watched as doctors kept at it with ultrasounds and MRI’s, and we were hoping to keep Adaleah with Annie for a few weeks so she could grow and be healthier before she arrived in the world, and then, something happened. Adaleah wasn’t moving a lot in the ultrasounds and each time they did one, she moved less, and less. Dr. Gardner, the main doctor in charge, told us after evaluating everything, we needed to get Adaleah out. Annie immediately started to come undone, she broke down right in front of me… she was scared. I was told that it would be very fast and that when Adaleah was out, she would be moved to NICU and would remain there. After the emergency c-section, we had a little over an hour to let Annie recover and then we got to go by NICU and see our daughter! SHE WAS BEAUTIFUL!!! Her hair, dark and curly; her skin looked slightly pink, yet almost had a little tan. She had beautiful tiny hands with long fingers, and her feet were just like her mommy’s! We were there for only a few minutes and Annie had to be moved back to her room where she needed to recover for a little while before I could take her back to see her baby. I kept going back and forth between the rooms and would update Annie on how Adaleah was doing. I want you to know that Adaleah was stable and she had to have tubes in place on both sides of her chest. Two were by her heart to draw out fluid and one on the other side remove fluid from her lung. She was moving, wiggling around now and then, and I found out her feet were ticklish! As I looked at my tiny baby girl, I wondered how everything would be. I kept looking at her, admiring her, noticing how she would grow to look so much like her mother. I came back to Annie, she was with the nurses and she was able to go back to Adaleah and see her again. I watched as Annie cried for her, she was so happy to see her baby! We stayed as long as we could, we talked to the nurse about Adaleah’s situation, and we were worried she hadn’t been improving, just that she was stable. The nurse let us know that everything was working like it should and that all we could do was wait so we stayed by her bed as long as we could till they had to close for a little while. We went back to the room and rested for about an hour or two then the other doctor came in. Her name escapes me now, but she is a sweet woman. She told us that they thought the fluid built up around Adaleah’s heart and lungs may have been due to a heart condition and that a specialist was already there running tests on her. We met with the doctors an hour later and that’s when our world changed. Adaleah had a congenital heart disease. At this time we were all crying, and I looked at my wife and I held her hand and moved with her to Adaleah’s bedside. We stood there…watching…praying. Ashlynn was in my arms and she got to see her baby sister and was so excited! She had been waiting to meet Adaleah for such a long time! She said to us, “She’s so cute; she’s little just like I was!” I smiled at her and said “Yes baby, she’s just like you!” We had a moment just then where time stood still, we were together as a family for the first time and it was the best feeling in the world! I wanted it to last forever… but something happened. Our baby girl Adaleah’s heart stopped. We had only been there together for a brief moment, merely minutes and my baby girl who just got into this world was already leaving. The doctor’s and nurse’s all worked fast to try and help Adaleah and get her heart going again. Molly, one nurse here at Hillcrest, performed chest compressions with her for 40 minutes while Adaleah was trying so hard to breathe, her heart just couldn’t do it. They continued to keep her alive with chest compressions and medication, and then the doctor looked up at me and asked, “Would mom like to hold her baby?” and I replied “She needs to.” Annie looked at me confused; I moved a chair close to Adaleah’s bed and asked her to sit down. She didn’t understand at that moment why they were trying to move her. I looked at her, with tears rolling down my face, and told my beautiful wife, “This is going to be the only time you get to hold your baby girl while she’s alive honey, I’m so sorry.” At this moment, my daughter Ashlynn and both groups of grandparents were there, we all watched as they moved our daughter Adaleah over to her mother. Annie held her so close and gave her a huge kiss and a hug, said “I love you so much Adaleah!” and we cried as her life left her. This is the worst day of our lives. Our baby girl Adaleah Rose Field was born on Wednesday January 29, 2014 at 3:18 p.m. and passed away Thursday January 30, 2014 at 12:20 p.m. She lived for 21 hours and 2 minutes. We will never stop thinking of you and loving you Adaleah Rose. We watched you breathe, move, and make some faces and we wish we could have heard you make a noise. We will miss you and all the things we will never get to do together. WE LOVE YOU SO MUCH!
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