Del Still's Obituary
Alma Del Still—the matriarch, the heart, and the bright beacon of light in our family—passed away peacefully, surrounded by loved ones in Tulsa, Oklahoma, on April 9th. She was 90 beautiful years old.
Del Stanley was born in Tulsa, Oklahoma, on August 19, 1934, the youngest daughter of Floyd and Ruby Stanley’s five children. Del met B. Ray Still in 1947. They became young teenage sweethearts and lifelong soulmates. They married on October 5, 1950, shortly before Ray was drafted by the U.S. Army to serve his required two years in the Korean War. The young Still’s began their married life stationed in Virginia and San Antonio, Texas.
Del and Ray then moved back home to Tulsa and were blessed with the births of their sons, Tim and Marc. Ray supported his young family by working in the accounting department at Sinclair Oil Companies while taking night courses at the University of Tulsa. Del provided her family with a Christ-centered, nurturing environment filled with love and discipline, always keeping her family focused on a grateful and balanced life. Her generous and kind nature was instrumental in her completion of an LPN certification and in her care for patients at a local hospital.
In 1967, Ray’s position with Sinclair moved the Still family to Denver, Colorado, where they fell in love with the beautiful, sun-drenched and snow-covered mountains. Sinclair relocated the family again in 1974 to Dallas, Texas, where Marc and Tim completed their education.
Upon Ray’s retirement after 30 years with Sinclair/ARCO, Del and Ray relocated to their personally designed dream home on Beaver Lake in Northwest Arkansas. They spent more than 14 years enjoying each other’s company and visits from beloved family and close friends. They even ran a charming garage-based business, selling “special finds” from local garage and estate sales—Ray managed the financial gains and Del’s charm made sure the merchandise found new homes.
Del and Ray moved back to Tulsa in 2004 to be closer to their family and friends. In the years after, Del and Ray traveled to a variety of destinations including back to Colorado. They spent many holidays in Dallas and Santa Fe, though some of their favorite times were with Marc and Karen at their lake house at Monkey Island on Grand Lake of the Cherokees in Oklahoma. Del had to tearfully say goodbye to her forever love on February 14, 2020, supported by her faith that they would be together again in Christ’s reward.
Alma Del Still, known to her family as “Aunt Blondie,” was pure joy. She was vibrant, kind, and creative. Her compassion and love were evident in the simple habit of holding your hand when she spoke to you, in the mischievous twinkle in her eye when she had hopes for you, and in the beautiful smile that welcomed you into her embrace. And her joy was contagious. It was impossible to be upset around her—her vivacious spirit, her strong faith, and her positive outlook made sure of that.
Del is survived by her cherished sons, Tim Still and Marc Still; her daughter-in-law, Karen Rogers Still; her brothers, Gary Stanley and Raymond Stanley; and her cherished grandchildren, Adam Still, Paul Still, Lauren Stanley, and Morgan Stanley. She is also survived by numerous nephews, nieces, friends, and loved ones. Del was preceded in death by her loving husband of 69 years, Ray Still; her brother, Floyd Stanley; her sister, Earlene Stanley McIntire; and her parents, Floyd and Ruby Stanley.
She loved her boys as much as life itself—always ready to brag about whichever son wasn’t in the room. Del would spoil them at Christmas with a Sugar Plum Fairy landscape of special treats and presents. Christmas and birthday celebrations were always filled with colorful decorations, bountiful spreads, and infectious joy. She treasured her grandchildren and showered them with unconditional love.
Her nurturing spirit also shone through in her love for gardening. She found peace and happiness in the warmth of the sun as she coaxed her plants to bloom to perfection. Her joie de vivre was also evident as she cheered on her favorite team—the Oklahoma Sooners. Boomer!
Del Still was an amazing woman: a massively devoted wife and mother, grandmother, sister, aunt, “god-grandmother,” and cousin to many family members—and to even more friends and loved ones. With Ray by her side, Del was anchored in her faith, loved her God, and was truly one of the kindest souls any of us ever met.
Del Still was the “mom” all mothers aspire to be—the wife and life partner we all dream of being, or being with. An angelic but stern reminder of right and wrong, fairness and kindness, she was a lifelong proponent of forever love, true commitment, honor, hope, and faith in each other… truly fading attributes in our world today.
You always stood straighter in the presence of Del Still—out of admiration, respect, and endearment. She loved fiercely, spoke sweetly, patted your hand when she spoke to you, and hugged you hard when it was time to say goodbye. If you knew her, she was your supporter. She was always in your corner, continually lifting you up.
If you doubted, she would help you find the right path—through strength, hope, and optimism. Del Still was a “mom” to each of us, regardless of age, whether your real mom was out of the room, out of the state, out of your life—or you just needed a mom. Del was your mom. Always there with love, kindness, and reassurance. Always holding your hand.
Marc and Tim, we know you will miss her. Find comfort in knowing where she is…
holding hands again with her “guy,” B. Ray, in Heaven.
Thank you, God, for the heart, the love, and the motherhood of the extraordinary Del Still.
Services:
• Visitation: Monday, April 14, 2025, from 5–7 PM at Floral Haven Funeral Home
• Graveside Service: Tuesday, April 15, 2025, at 12:30 PM at Floral Haven Memorial Gardens – Garden of Apostles
• Memorial Service: Following the graveside at Montereau at 2:00 PM (6800 S Granite Ave, Tulsa, OK 74136)
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